They’ll come to the realization that they have taken you for granted and you are taking back control. –. Coz I don’t want to do the same mistake. The reason you are probably fearing it is due to the fact that you will feel like a complete failure if he doesn’t try to contact you at all. After I calmed down I wanted to make up but my ex said; he thought it was for the best, he loves me but doesn’t want to hurt me any more and that we want different things. If they don't rebound they will think about you if you go NC generally faster IMO. don’t stop improving yourself and having your own life.. have fun talks, have fun when you see each other but always leave at high point, It has been a week since my ‘ex’ went NC on me. The fact that she’s with someone else doesn’t mean that she’s internally happy all of a sudden. I can’t tell you how many times a woman comments on this website saying something like. The reason why the no contact rule is so effective is because of the role of uncertainty. So this was at the beginning of July charges were placed, mid July she said I am with someone else and her bestfriend tagged team with trying to convince me. I say, Why can’t you just talk to me, She says, ” Leave me I am with someone else” I say show me or prove it to me then”. I went NC 3 weeks ago and he hasn’t contacted me since. When they do, they oftentimes forget their dumpee’s needy, pre-breakup and post-breakup mistakes and come back for themselves. I laid next to her prayed and asked God to help her with her decision to stay with me or leave me. It likely won’t happen because the human mind doesn’t work that way. Stay strong, stay productive. I just had a big pow-wow on the fact that making your ex boyfriend isn’t the be all end all of the no contact rule. Don't give her all your attention In other words, you need to give her space. Having done too much forbidding for 2 months I think it’s definitely over, today she insulted me as an asshole, she told me that there were a lot of men. Well, a lot of the things I talk about after this section can be solved if you put this one trick into practice. he’s just respecting your space.. A new relationship will follow naturally. Men and women are different in terms of how they think. The woman who really loves you will question you willfully. During the no contact period, you are to have zero contact with your ex: No texts; No calls; No Facebook messages (and no liking his status updates or commenting) No Snapchats; No tweets Had complicating factors with family, so I didn’t worry about it. I’m HP the girl that said I’ll move on. https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com --- Take our free 2 minute quiz to figure out what kind of chance you have of getting your ex back. Is that what he’s doing or is he just saying ‘hey’ so to get a Holla back. The no contact rule essentially forces you to stop focusing on your addiction (your ex) and focus that energy inwards. I got new hair . This makes sense in my head so please don’t take it as the gospel. It is very important that you heal from the hurt before you think of trying to get back together with your ex. That voice in the back of your head whispers, “What if this doesn’t work? His clique may have influenced him more that having other girls is okay but I feel bad because I love him. We were a couple for a few months, I meant we were in a relationship together she and I. This was homemade ice cream and pretty much upon seeing the booth my wife and I decided that we would give our daughter a taste of some ice cream. I wrote an article recently on what exes are thinking during the no contact rule, but to give I’ll summarize what happens after a breakup for you here as well. Sarah. Sounds like she still cares about you but is pissed off. What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back? You can’t truly love a person and not want him near you at the same time. This is especially true if you try to reason with her mind. I’m a very hopeful and determined person, but perhaps it’s time to give up, accept that I lost him forever. One day my ex asked my sister if i had abandoned facebook or i no longer had a cellphone and when she told me that i was excited that she missed me and i persisted to the no contact. If I do the no contact rule, will he talk to me again? Without a doubt one of the most popular articles that I have ever written in the history of this site is my “male mind series. You are the person who is best placed to figure out what he is thinking about. The no contact rule serves an amazing application and you are guaranteed to get something positive out of it as long as you put more energy into yourself as opposed to into your ex. Obviously, I want to be together again with him, but it has been very difficult to move on without moving on. All he will say is he is not cheating and I should trust him. Your ex will probably end up hating your guts and run for the mountains as quickly as she can. Saturday night had a discussion with my girlfriend we have been dating 7 months. In fact, I estimate that 8 out of 10 women who try NC will end up breaking it early when they aren’t supposed to. It is entirely possible to ruin your chances of getting your ex back but not staying true to the no contact rule. Send her a topic about your future wife and see how she will reply. You might be wondering that since I already told you there is no way they forget about you during no contact, what is it then that they will be thinking during this time? “Hmmmm she’s acting really weird.” Yes! You are rebuilding your life. We weren’t fighting or in any arguments. We had never gone more than 48 hours without talking prior to this. She doesn’t come back. Let me tell you a few facts: As much as you love her and are missing her, she will be missing you too (if you give her the chance and space). When she's interested in you then you go cold turkey again, so she will be thinking about you and eventually become attached to you. I kept texting him, and begging him. I even asked her to see a doctor and she gets mad every time I said this, people say she is a narcissist, and overall a bad person. I don’t want to rush into a relationship. I’m in the same boat. What’s her deal? But 90% of our two years were very healthy and happy. During our story she said that she would never take revenge, that she would never give up, little by little I was able to trust her completely, I was really ready to marry her. I have no idea what to say/do to the subject involved. So don’t blame yourself for the way your ex feels now—even if your ex hates you. I am usually a very visual person so every time I read someone that makes me thing of drug addicts or drug withdrawal I have this very vivid image that pops into my head. And not the cheap kind. And then the no contact starts…. We were together for 2 years, broke up a few months ago, but she’s with someone new now for 2 months; heres the thing.. they are getting serious very quickly which is weird. You ignore him, he ignores you. MGTOW - Men Going Their Own Way - is a statement of self-ownership, where the modern man preserves and protects his own sovereignty above all else. Women seemed to like to know what is going on in the head of their ex boyfriends, go figure. This thought is almost like the exact opposite of what is going on with thought #3. Studies at Studyinternational say that women outnumber men academically all around the globe. What To Do When You’re Still In Love With Your Ex. Slight jibes and tactics. I changed alot. It sounds harsh, but well, that’s what the no contact rule is all about. Now, before I start diving into the female mind during the no contact rule it’s very important that I teach you this secret trick. She ended it saying that she wasn’t ready. You must treat her like someone you first meet, a chat here and there and if not so be it. And without a doubt it can accomplish that. it looks like some who is constantly Monkey branching from one relationship to another to receive relationship benefits. Essentially I took a concept like the no contact rule and took a deep dive into what a man was thinking during it and after it. We stayed in constant contact and had relationships for 3 years. But you need to remember that if he has feelings for you, jealousy will still be a major factor holding him back from moving on. on that day she unblocks me, the next day she blocks me again(very stubborn btw). It’s a rule where exes stay as exes and never become friends. Rule #2 men dumpees should NEVER reach out. My ex broke up with me 2 months ago. If you stay in contact and exude a lack of confidence though, that’s another story. I won’t lie, there’s a lot that still haunts me but it isn’t a knife in the gut when I think about it and I no longer feel like I’m on the brink of a fucking heart attack every time the phone rings. So don’t stress. You are not losing him. You may see she needs no parts of your new changes which is a good thing and if you still see her as a part of this new change then thats also good. Most people make it past a week but it’s the next three weeks that become troublesome. We’ve been texting for a week. Don’t give her so much for so little in return. In fact, most of the women who try the no contact rule are drawn to it for that reason. I totally agree. She’s in the elation dumper stage partying and drinking. Then asked if I’d had my results (a test I was having done) then he called me ignorant. Abel let her go, work on yourself, work out, find new hobbies, not saying forget her but work on yourself enjoy life become that Alpha male. We really did have something very very special. It's okay to accept her call during the no contact period but only chat about the urgent things and nothing personal. We tried to move past it, with time and limited contact, but she couldn’t bare not being part of my day. . you are helping lots of people out there who are still trying to understand relationships. I hope you’ll reply my comment. I feel that if he is the one to contact me first with intentions of reconciliation , given the proper space to really deeply think about the relationship, then it will mean to me that its real and my suspicions are correct he truly does love me and our relationship will be better because of it. 1. She might even start dating some else right away and look like she’s on cloud 9. Now, bear in mind that I am paraphrasing here. Well, if you’re doing the nc rule, that means you need to stop initiating, replying or commenting back if she comments on your posts. Nevertheless, I am sure that a gigantic portion of women are going to have one singular thought. Take the quiz. I hope you remember me. Very bad things were said through both parties during the breakup and this is What ultimately cut the chord. Well there you have it men, abandon all hope of getting your woman back,LOL!!!! Oh, and in case you didn’t know that “all knowing” voice in the back of your head is the voice of addiction. But I did leave her to give her a chance to think it through and start fresh.. I’m all over the place.. Hope you get through idea.. I’m confused too.. You told her you’re going separate ways but you asked her if you could start dating again? You have made great strides if you are now looking at things logically, because our emotions can hijack our whole being. The reason for that is that women tend to be more education-focused which implies that they are more patient and determined when it comes to themselves and their education. She was very hurt they weren’t more supportive and felt very attacked and blamed for being the problem, which she wasn’t. She’ll hold onto the negative emotions from her bad experiences and refuse to let go of them. I am not blinded by love trust me I think NC has helped me a lot with thinking about this logically instead of emotionally and yes I still want to be with her. I get this….now. Unlike anyone I have ever met, she holds onto the negative like no other. However, several hours after that I saw that he changed his Instagram password, then texted me he doesn’t love me anymore. One day before he told me that he wanted to break up with me, we were still on a good term. If you do the no contact properly it is guaranteed to work in one way. In case you didn’t have time to watch the whole interview the gist of Glenn’s strategy goes like this. And if you really want an added touch, there are merchants that will put a special label on the bottle. I’m confused, you broke up and you had relationships during those 3 years and you showed her your love while you both had relationships with other people? Big No Contact Mistake #2: Thinking About Your Ex Constantly. ah, like staying friends? Zan – I’ve noticed my ex only contacts me for comfort in stressful moments (death in family, something bad happened to another family member) I stay in no contact but she always initiates. Developed a very close relationship; initially friends, then more. “Hi Elizabeth, I’m having a really hard time with no contact. So let’s review each thought one at a time… 1. It’s also likely that if she didn’t end the relationship, she will see this no contact phase as a possible way to rekindle the relationship. During the no contact period, you are to have zero contact with your ex: No texts; No calls; No Facebook messages (and no liking his status updates or commenting) No Snapchats; No tweets; No going out of your way to stage an “accidental” run-in with him ; No responding when he contacts you; No going places you think he might be; No stalking his social accounts (OK, this … However, she is also moving 5 hours hours away this weekend and I of course my mind is going a million miles an hour as she is moving to the big city in our state, suitable to her age group. Not only is the fundamental for you, but it’s also really important when it comes to your readiness and ability to be a great partner to your ex. Today, I answer a reader’s question about whether her ex is thinking about her during no contact after a breakup. In fact, what is the first thing I recommend that you do after the no contact rule is over? What is my ex girlfriend thinking during no contact — Is my ex girlfriend thinking about me during no contact. I’m sure the readers will find it comforting. Two months on and I’m doing a lot better, I actually sleep at nights, I’m working out more, overhauled my wardrobe and I start a new exciting job next month. The male and female mind during the no contact phase. You can, however, fall out of love with someone and don’t hate him. I don’t want my ex back anymore. So give her space, but let her know via text that you get it…and you will respect her need for space….and that you too need to work on some things out. The female’s ability to think logically really depends on the mental strength the female developed during its childhood and teenage years as well as later in life as an adult.